If someone asked you what’s the main way people communicate with each other the chances are you’d say talking. There is a lot of emphasis on learning the spoken word and of course it’s a very important aspect of human communication. However it may surprise you to know talking is only responsible for 7% of our communication, especially when you consider how much talking we all do. In fact 55% of communication is visual (body language and eye contact) and 38% is vocal (tone of voice, pitch, speed and volume)
Talking is only responsible for 7% of communication
Communicating with our emotions
There is another language much less recognised but equally important and that is the language of emotions. As children we are much more connected to our emotional state unable to hide what we are feeling in the moment. In our society however, emotions are often seen as a weakness and as our conditioning takes over we are taught that being ‘too emotional’ is not a desirable way of behaving and so we learn to censor ourselves to fit in and be ‘normal’.
This conditioning means we can become very disconnected from our true feelings and when we face a challenge in our lives that is emotionally upsetting we are taught to suppress those feelings rather than express and release them. Although a certain amount of emotional censorship is necessary for society to function effectively. Unfortunately for many people suppressing their emotions over a period of time can lead to mental or physical illness and disease.
Emotions are recorded at a cellular level
Ignoring emotions does not mean they go away. Instead they go into the body ‘recorded’ at a cellular level and stay there until such time as they are released. But as we are not taught how to effectively do this the average person is carrying around layers of emotions from all of their traumatic experiences from childhood or even previous life times.
Our emotional environment affects our genes
The importance of the mind-body connection is being increasingly accepted and new sciences such as Epigenetics are able to show that both the emotional ‘environment’ of our inner world and our physical environment can have either a positive or negative impact on the health of our genes. For this reason it’s important to be aware of what emotional environment you are creating on a daily basis.
Is it one filled with positive thoughts that bring a feeling of joy and love into your heart or is it one filled with thoughts that have a negative impact on your health and wellbeing? Chances are it’s the latter and everyday you are creating an internal environment filled with thoughts and emotions that are keeping you from an optimum state of health and wellbeing whilst at the same time blocking your authentic self, in fact you may not even know who this self is.
This is where energy psychology therapies such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Matrix Reimprinting, a recent and very powerful evolution of EFT can be very helpful.
Peeling away the layers of emotions
Peeling the onion
EFT and Matrix Reimprinting are powerful therapies that enable you to learn the language of your emotions. As you tap on an issue and connect with what physical sensation it creates in your body you go on a unique journey that involves peeling away the layers of emotions that are causing this block in your meridian energy system, a network of pathways and energy points that run through your body.
We call this the onion effect and what EFT is really good at is helping you identify your emotions as part of the process of peeling away those layers that are blocking you from connecting with your original being of peace and love. Once the layers have been removed Matrix Reimprinting can be used to help you re-connect with your authentic self by healing the younger parts of you that have been holding these emotions for many years.
Shine the light of your authentic self
Taking the time to learn the language of emotions using EFT can literally change your life. Instead of remaining stuck in a place, job, relationship that is no longer working for you or perhaps never was. You can clear the layers of emotion and self-limiting beliefs caused by them that are keeping you stuck.
The wonderful thing is once they have been cleared you are free to shine the bright light of your authentic self into the world and begin to consciously create your life in a way that works for you.
It is only when you begin living from this state of being that you will see your outer world transform as it begins to reflect your light back to you.
© Amy Branton.
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